The aftermath of trauma.

This was written by my friend Fiona Yardley. Fiona is many things; artist, poet, mother, partner. And she is a survivor. The #metoo movement has seen many of us share our experiences of sexual harassment, assault and rape. Trump inadvertently kick-started something recently, where survivors shared the reasons they didn’t report their assaults.

Here, Fiona shares how she deals with what she experienced, years later. It’s not always as simple as just moving on. Access to help isn’t as available as we might think or hope it is.

If you have experienced trauma and it’s aftermath, especially from sexual assault or harassment, you might find this a hard read. Or, you might find it a familiar one. No one wishes these kinds of experiences on others. But there is a small comfort in knowing that someone out there understands how you feel.

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This is a guest post written by Felicity Frankish from The Baby Vine.

The Death Chat

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Parenting is full of hard (and hilarious) conversations. The first one that springs to mind is usually The Talk- the good old “how are babies made” chat. But another important talk might come up sooner than you think. The conversation about the end of life. It could be the loss of a beloved pet or the death of a special family member. Or it could be as seemingly innocuous as a dead mouse on the road…

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Incels

Incels are involuntarily celibate people, usually men, who blame a host of external factors for their inability to find a partner. The term incel has become more widely known in recent years after events such as the Toronto van attack, which killed 10 people. The perpetrator, Alek Minassian, was part of the Incel movement and active in online forums discussing a hatred of women. It was discovered that he had posted his praises online for Elliot Rodger, who killed 6 people and injured even more back in 2014. Rodger claimed it was an act revenge towards the women who had rejected him.
Incels

Incels refer to men who can find a partner as “Chads”. They view them with contempt and jealousy. Women who are considered attractive and desirable, while still being objects of scorn and hatred, as called “Stacys”.

My guest this week is Dr Rachel Hannam, who gives us an insight into incels from a psychologist’s point of view.

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This is a guest post written by Dorothy Krajewski.

Full Time Work

Full time work is a joke. I don’t think it works for anyone, but it’s a standard a lot of us accept because our need for security outweighs our need for happiness or well-being. I lived it for many years with a fully able body, without a family, with undiagnosed depression and anxiety and hated it. It took a huge toll on my body and mind and I lived for my days off and holidays.

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