Population: Victims of homicide where the offender and victim are in a domestic relationship, as defined at Indicator 1.3.
Source: NSW Bureau of Crime Statistics and Research, NSW Recorded Crime Statistics, unpublished (BOCSAR ref: Dg12/10965, nm1311039).
- In this period, 194 people were killed by someone they had a domestic relationship with.
- 122 of these deaths were a result of “Intimate Partner Homicide”.
- Of those 122 people, 89 were women.
This year, in Australia, Destroy the Joint has been counting women as they die in an effort to show the government that the issue of violence against women is at epidemic proportions. The same government that recently refused to classify such violence as torture to the UN- who, incidentally, acknowledge that globally, the most common form of violence experienced by women is Intimate Partner violence.
What I’m getting at is pretty simple. Male violence against women, especially domestic violence, is a huge problem. Certain men’s groups will tell you that the problem is not gender related. They will tell you that it is a much more equal equation and that women are just as likely to be the aggressor and that men do not report it for fear of ridicule.
I have no doubt some women are aggressors- statistics prove it. I have no doubt some men do not report such violence. What I also know is this: The numbers aren’t lying. Women are dying at a far greater rate than men are from domestic violence. And experts in this field will also tell you how under reported this type of violence is from female victims- one article I read had the figure as high as 80%.
This does not make male victims less worthy of help and support. This simply shows women are at greater risk of violence and death.
Attacking the NSW Police for encouraging women to come forward for help with a “but what about men” is simply derailing the conversation and ignoring the issue they are trying to address.
Campaigners are saying Domestic Violence is at epidemic proportions in Australia and the numbers I’ve posted here are horrifying. But sometimes, people glaze over numbers. They are just characters on a screen. They are harder to connect with.
In my family, I have 3 female members that I know of who are battling PTSD as a direct result of domestic violence. I know of at least two more who have survived years of violence in a marriage. Another family member who is no longer with us suffered many years in a violent, abusive marriage. Six women, right there. That’s not counting friends and acquaintances.
If you think about it, you probably know a few, as well. Because it is that common.
It’s time to break the cycle.